Posted by spoc on June 1, 2004, at 1:52:18
In reply to Re: Me and my bro were talking about women and..., posted by pegasus on June 1, 2004, at 0:06:11
As far as looking in general, amongst my many guy friends, I see three main reactions. Some will simply appear to feel "appreciation of form" when looking. Others will seem tormented somehow, like "Dang, I'm missing something..." and kinda have trouble refocusing on what they were doing or deciding what to do. Others don't even show any reaction or seem to be phased, even though I know they are plenty red-blooded (or whatever the word is) on the inside. Maybe a sign for you would be what kind of reaction along those lines you feel. (Fun fact: my favorite is the last category ;-)
As far as once you are married, I think the most important thing you could have done for yourself is make sure you didn't end up with the person based mainly on looks/physical attraction, passion, all the things that feel so intense and real but don't last... And a chemical reaction that you may *yearn* to feel again once it dissipates.
At that point, while the younger-woman-gawking thing may be a thorn in the side of older women, the main point is the pull of pretty other women period. Once you are married, it wouldn't be much more comforting it was also older other women you longed for -- if they weren't your wife! Hopefully she will be one older woman you still find beautiful, if she and your relationship are also beautiful on the inside! Or, are you worried as much about still being attracted to her as you are about also being attracted to younger women?
But I think it speaks very well of you that are even thinking about these things! Everyone is human, but I'm betting you're ahead of the game and your chances are pretty good of being the type to do the right thing! :- )
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