Posted by Racer on May 30, 2004, at 9:52:14
In reply to Re: Overwhelmed -- great timing » Racer, posted by All Done on May 30, 2004, at 4:00:15
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> Try to fit in some time for yourself and let us know what we can do to help.
>And therein lies the rub. I've got my aunt staying with me, and she is ALWAYS under foot. I can't make breakfast without having to tell her to move over and over again. I'll pick up the egg pan from the stove -- hot pan, burn alert -- and she's right back in front of the sink where I have to put it. Then, she's offended that I TELL her she has to move now, despite the real issue involved: it's a heavy pan that I have to swing from the stove to the sink to keep from dropping it. You know the sort? She just wants to be so close all the time, and talking, that she upsets me so much first thing in the morning by "helping" with breakfast (read: "hanging out in a tiny kitchen while I cook") that the rest of the day includes a lot of unnecessary discomfort for me. (Normally, my husband empties the dishwasher while I check email, then he checks email while I cook. That, my friends, is the solution to division of labor in a "two butt kitchen." (We call it a two butt kitchen, because any more than that and you can't function.)
I do think that the real problem is not having any time alone. I think if I could get a solid hour to relax, alone, I'd have been better able to get through this. Auntie goes home today. THen there are a few more days of stress, and then it will ease. I'm scheduling the meltdown day for Thursday, since that's the first day I don't have the stress inducing responsibilities and can take a day to fall apart in the utter, blessed privacy of my own little cage. It's just that it's so dang hard to get through until then.
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