Posted by deirdrehbrt on May 23, 2004, at 22:32:37
In reply to AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by Mirror on May 23, 2004, at 21:27:23
Hi Mirror,
I know this will sound trite, but BREATHE. Not just the breathing that you do to stay alive, but a conscious deep slow cleansing breath. It does wonders. Before you talk to someone who makes you angry, BREATHE. Before dealing with someone you're afraid of, BREATHE. When you don't think you can do something, BREATHE.
Exhale, 'till you can't anymore, and go a little further. While you're doing it, SEE all of the negative energy going out.
SEE yourself empty, no negativity, no anger, nothing expected, nothing owed.
SLOWLY start inhaling in through your nose. CONTROL the speed of your inhale. Don't give in to the temptation to fill your lungs as fast as you can. YOU are in control. It is YOUR body and YOUR lungs. INHALE slowly, feeling the air fill your lungs, first low, at the diaphragm. Let your chest expand, your shoulders rise.
When you cant inhale anymore, take just a little more air in. FEEL the stretching in your shoulders and chest.
HOLD the air in your body. Feel it. With your inner eyes, see the blood being filled with the oxygen.
SLOWLY, release your hold, and let the air come slowly through a small space between your lips. SEE the CO2 that was useless in your body coming out through your lips. Your shoulders fall, your chest relaxes. Your body is calm and relaxed.Now, you are calm. Now you can face the thing that seemed daunting with a little less anxiety.
I'm fairly certain that your Dad doesn't hate you. In fact, with a B average, I would guess that even if he doesn't say it, that he might just be proud of you. He may be difficult in your eyes, and you might just be difficult in his. Believe it or not, teenagers and fathers, mothers too, can have strained relationships. You are going through a period where you are finding out what it is like to be independent. They can see that as you not wanting to listen to them. You have lived your whole life, up to this point, completely dependent on them. Whatever you needed they provided. Now, you are becoming independent, and it's confusing for both sides. At one minute, you don't need them, and the next, you do. The lines get blurry. If you don't need them to drive you, why should you need gas money? It's weird.
You will though, one day, get it sorted out. It's a communication thing right now.
Good luck,
You sound like a great kid.Dee.
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