Posted by pegasus on May 16, 2004, at 16:17:54
In reply to Re: Jealousy in Group, posted by ghost on May 16, 2004, at 12:26:09
Boy, I could have written what ghost wrote! In my group (psychodrama) there is one person who is very assertive about seeking the attention she needs. She has valid issues, so that's fine, but I can never speak up like that, and so I never really get to work on my stuff directly.
Recently we did this exercise where there was a pillow in the middle of the room, and we were all supposed to position ourselves relative to the pillow in a way that indicated how we felt about working on our own stuff. So, if you're closer to the pillow, you're wanting to work on your stuff more, and if you're farther away, you're more wanting to be a spectator or contributor to someone else's work. So, I stand about 2 feet away, which is really really close for me. And of course, the assertive woman stands right on top of the pillow, so we worked on her stuff. And the two Ts were oblivious to how close I had gotten, and how I was never going to be able to get any closer than that.
I feel like I need them to be aware of these types of dynamics and facilitate everyone getting a chance. But in reality, we don't have enough sessions left in our current group to have a session for everyone. So, the assertive folks will self select, and us timid types will never get to directly work on anything. Other than trying real hard to be assertive.
pegasus
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