Posted by karen_kay on May 1, 2004, at 20:30:03
In reply to Abused as child...life in shambles, posted by devon00 on April 30, 2004, at 23:10:30
i wish i had answers for you devon. i really wish i did. i know that what really helps me to get through is having the confidence to know that i'm a good person. and that i'm still trying. and that one day, i'll get it.
don't allow your family's faults to interfere with your knowlegde and confidence that you are a great person. find ways to prove it to yourself. sometimes i make lists of the good things i do, even when i don't feel like they are enough. simple things like smiling at strangers, or petting my dog. that helps me on bad days to know that i'm wonderful, even if it doesn't always feel that way.
it's hard sweetie. and i'm sorry your family isn't more supportive. it helps me to know in my heart that i'm doing things right and that i love myself. i think i've honestly just retrained myself to believe that. it takes a while to undo some of the things that happened in the past, but it does happen. with small steps and encouragement from yourself. and asking for help (like here) is always a good sign. you are wonderful, just keep teling yourself that. and those lists honestly helped me to reinforce and retrain my thoughts.
good luck to you and keep posting for support and encouragement. i'll be here giving it to you.
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