Posted by emmaley on March 18, 2004, at 19:58:22
In reply to Please Help, I need advice, I am very down, ******, posted by Stryker88 on March 15, 2004, at 2:40:19
Aaarrrrrrrrgggggghhhh, my first post disappeared.
Anyhow, I want to let you know that I was touched to read your post. I found it brave that you were willing to let yourself be this vulnerable in a post. Thank you for that.
Also, I am wondering if it's really about the girl? I know that attraction is a powerful thing, and you seem to genuinely enjoy this girl's presence. However, you also put in caps that you feel alone and isolated from everyone in this world......
First, I want to say that I am so sorry that you feel that way. I imagine that it feel painful to feel that alone. (All the more glad that you posted here.)
Second, I am wondering what would happen if we stop focusing on what the eyes can see (the girl and your attraction towards her) and instead fosuing on what the eyes can't see (your inner world) for a while? It just sounds like a part of you really longs for certain interpersonal relationships to fulfill your certain needs, like we all do. I wonder if you are getting enough of your inner needs filled? Such as feeling connected to your community, friends, and family? Or loving yourself the way you deserve? Just food for thought.
Do you have a therapist? I hope you do, since I am a firm believer in good therapy, and it seems like such a ripe and good opportunity for you to do some inner work.
Take gentle care,
poster:emmaley
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