Posted by Dinah on January 15, 2004, at 10:34:14
In reply to Embarrassed... Vaginismus (one for the girls!), posted by NikkiT2 on January 15, 2004, at 9:45:13
To some extent, I have this problem. Not to where it makes sex impossible, but it does make it painful. Along with other problems that make sex very painful. For example, I have a small remnant that my gynecologist wants to do a hymenectomy on. And I wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't want to do some stretching at the same time since she wants to do a general anasthesia.
I didn't realize there were specific medical techniques to solving the problem. Not that it makes much difference. I tried to make the appointment for the hymenectomy once, and couldn't go through with it. There is too much internal ambivalence about it.
I realize that my thoughts are not rational but they go something like. "Sex hurts and I don't like it. I don't want to get whatever it is fixed because then I'll have to have sex more often, and I don't like it. No! No! No! I will not do this to myself. I will not have this surgery."
Sorry, my ramblings probably haven't done you a bit of good, except perhaps to know that you aren't alone (and are far more rational than some).
My cursory view of the internet showed that there are lots of support sites.
poster:Dinah
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