Posted by Lyrical13 on January 1, 2004, at 10:30:55
In reply to Re: mood disorders and adoption » Dr. Bob, posted by Emme on December 27, 2003, at 23:53:53
thanks Emme. I am hoping that someone has had a similar experience. Who knows when we will be parents. We've talked about adopting for years and are just now feeling ready to be parents (I'm 34, he's 36) Actually I've wanted a baby for a while but the time wasn't right. We started looking into adoption last winter and were planning to start the process Jan 2004 but last summer I wanted a baby so badly and wanted to get teh ball rolling. So we went to a meeting in Aug (had narrowed it down to which agency after much research)and then had a one-on-one mtg with the director of the agency. The next step would have been formal application but we decided to put it on hold for now. My husband has been laid off since May...this has been a pattern for the past 3-4 years...lots of time laid off. His job is related to the auto industry and we live in the Detroit area.....not a good time right now. Lots of people out of work. I think we have highest unemployment rate in US right now. I was very depressed this fall. Part of that was baby-related (I couldn't even look at anything related to parenting or adoption for a few months) It was compounded by the fact that Aug thru Jan is my bad time for teh past 10 years. So I don't know when we will be able to adopt. :( In the meantime, I am trying to find the right med combo to keep me stable and I'm getting closer to it all the time. Every year gets a little better. HOpefully by the time we get to a place where we can financially start a family, my mental health status will have been stable for quite a while. I guess it will happen when it's meant to happen but it is so hard to wait when people all around you have young children...I work at a school and there is always someone pregnant or becoming a grandma etc.....I am happy for them but it's hard to wait for my turn!
thanks for your good thoughts and well wishes
Lyrical13
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