Posted by tampagirl on December 29, 2003, at 14:42:02
In reply to Re: husband and ocd problems, posted by Angielala on December 29, 2003, at 14:11:26
i don't know what would happen if i brought us all together. its not that i'm afraid of finding out what really happened, i just want to know the truth. at this point, i don't really want to hang out with my friend anymore and neither does my husband. we've all been doing things together for the past couple years (she's single) and they feel very comfortable around each other.
the obsessive thoughts are usually about love - how do you know that you love someone, what is love, what if i don't really love him, that type of stuff. we've been together for almost 11 years and married for about 8 of those. i've gone through all of this before - the same thoughts and questions and i thought i had put it all behind me. my fear is that i'll find out that i really don't love him, i'm just comfortable with him. i'm 33 and have never lived on my own, but i know that i could do it. even though i know that, it scares me to death that i wouldn't have anyone to support me if something happened to me. so my thoughts go from thinking about he & i splitting up and me having to fend for myself and what if i don't make it.
you're totally right that i'm the one suffering for something that i didn't create. our relationship can be a trigger and this time what happened was enough to set me off. the holidays are a sad time of year for me too, so all of this combined just creates one big, sad, sloppy mess.
thanks for your advice, i really appreciate it and will try some of what you suggested.
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