Posted by Karen_kay on December 24, 2003, at 9:02:02
In reply to Tabitha's therapist's coat, posted by Medusa on December 24, 2003, at 8:14:02
Thanks for letting me continue with my therapist's choice of dress. It seems I've been dogging him on the other board, so I *need* to try to keep something positive going...
Good lord, since eye contact is SO important, why is he saving money on this end?
<<Now, I'm not sure if his glasses really reflect so much that it is to the point that it annoys me, or if I'm just making excuses not to make eye contact. Well,,,, I'm certain they do reflect because I wouldn't make excuses about anything. So, now the hard question comes. Should I broach the matter? I'm going to be seriously annoyed with him my next visit anyway, so I don't mind getting into it. But, I don't want to give him any ammunition to shoot back. In other words, I don't want him to say, "Now Karen, that's BS. You don't make eye contact because of the subject. You're just finding petty annoyances to point out. Let's get back to the discussion." He becomes quite frustrated with me anyway, which in turn leaves me feeling hostile and staring at his sometimes scuffed shoes.
Scuffed dress shoes is a sign of so many qualities I don't appreciate
<<They are only sometimes scuffed. And not bad at all. Only minor. It's just something I notice from time to time. I'm overly-critical. I'd never point that out. I guess it happens to the best of us.
What do you wear to therapy these days?
<<Well, during finals I wore khakis (nice ones, not cargo pants, yuck!) and a nice black sweater with a swanky pair of black boots with a heel. The khakis emphasized my arse and the sweater emphasized my neck. No cleavage, promise :) But, typically I wear something similar to business casual. Dress slacks and nice dress shirt with a pair of dress boots. On occassion I do pair up jeans with a nice shirt or sweater, but only if I don't have anything that I have to do that day and I plan on coming home and changing into my pj's!!
My problem is that I think for some reason EVERYTHING will be ok if I look ok. That people won't know I'm not ok if I don't look ok. That I won't know I'm not ok if I look good. I think I can fool myself. It's worked this long.Where's he get his socks?
<<I've never thought to ask. You're bringing up so many questions for me :) But they almost always have patterns that match the color of his tie. I wonder sometimes if his wife dresses him. But, my old man dresses nice as well, and I don't always have to dress him. I have to help him pick out ties and socks and shoes, but I don't have to dress him. As for the socks, I'd say he buys them at a high-end store. They're similar to the type my old man wears as well. Maybe that's why I always notice them.
Color, or pattern and finish too?<<Since he always opts for brown, he wears a brown belt and brown shoes. The belts never have a pattern, but there is a finish. It's a bit shiny, but it matches his shoes perfectly.
He's a snazzy dresser! But, not over the top like Dinah's. And he's never once been overly critical of me. He makes comments to me about my dress. When I used to come in looking especially nice, he'd say, "Do you have a job interview?" And I'd say, in my sexiest voice, "No, I'm just here to see you." And he'd just laugh. This continued for about a month. Then I finally said, "Listen this is getting to be a pain in my butt. I have to come home from class, redo my hair and makeup, change my clothes and get back in here within an hour. Give me permission to wear jeans!" And he'd just say, "Well, you look nice, but you can wear what you want. You should be comfortable." So, he kept telling me how nice I looked. Stupid therapist!
As for the coat, he has to wear one. Maybe he keeps it in the lounge? I'll sneak in there one day and scope the place out. Maybe he'll lock me up? But, at least I'll know what his coat looks like...
poster:Karen_kay
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