Posted by tabitha on December 12, 2003, at 18:51:22
In reply to Will I Ever Get the *Dys* out of Dysfunctional? , posted by Susan J on December 12, 2003, at 10:38:55
Well Sooz, maybe you could have just asked about the name and left out the ultimatum. He might have reacted less defensively then. On his side, maybe he could have been more understanding that using two different names really threw you into suspicion. After all, it's blind dating, it's natural to be cautious that someone might lie to you. But like Miss H said there are already red flags, and so early. I doubt you've lost much if anything by not handling this perfectly. What you did is much better than ignoring it. You got a chance to practice confronting someone-- maybe next time do it a little differently.
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