Posted by LynneDa on December 12, 2003, at 15:13:30
In reply to Re: You Are Not Alone, posted by geri122 on December 12, 2003, at 15:08:14
Honey, the only way to get better is to push thru the really bad stuff. You have to go thru that process to get to a place where you can start healing. I'm sorry, but that has to be your next step. You can only go there if you're ready. But, whatever the consequences, it can't be as bad as how you feel on a daily basis, can it? It took me many years to learn that keeping the peace is not always worth it - it's good in the short term, but is unhealthy and totally disabling in the long term!
It's true that parents get to speak their minds and kids don't. I have that habit with my daughter at times. It's all in the way you do it. Don't tell them what they're doing wrong. Stick to "I" statements and talk about your feelings. I wish I could be a fly on the wall and help talk you thru a conversation with them. I know it is not easy!!!!
~ Lynne
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