Posted by bookgurl99 on November 27, 2003, at 20:51:29
In reply to WHO IS FOR REAL, posted by blink23 on November 26, 2003, at 16:06:06
Well Blink, you're not alone. I felt a lot like you do when I moved to my town at age 24.
Now I'm 28, and have actually made and unmade friends in this town, and though I don't have many really close friends here (like BEST best friends, you know), I do have people to spend time with.
Something that I'm doing is, I made myself a little calendar and I'm making myself get out and do things 3 nights a week. For example, based on my interests, this week I'm going to a philosophy discussion group, a writer's group, and a yoga class. Meanwhile, one of my few other friends and I are getting an outdoors-oriented social group started over the winter. (Because we figure sometimes you have to do the work of organizing something to meet people.)
One of my friends told me you usually have to give a new group 6 months -- like unless you really hate it, give a new club or whatever 6 months -- before people start seeing you as one of the "gang" and inviting you along to things. So if you're persistent, it will happen.
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