Posted by Susan J on November 18, 2003, at 12:42:07
In reply to Re: Family Anger, Dysfunction, Can You Stop It? LONG, posted by femlite on November 18, 2003, at 12:30:57
Hi,
Thanks!
>>We have to be willing to let people make their own mistakes. I know that sounds overly simple, but it is really deeply true and necessary. Let them. The fact is you cant prevent it and might only interfere with their need to learn their own life lessons and cause yourself greater anguish.
<<You're totally right. I think, over the past several years, I've come to see that's true. I've even tried it, but it never worked for me. This book points out that it can take a lot longer than you think is OK (like months before a spouse starts doing his share of the housework), and that even though we want the other person to change his/her behavior, we are somehow afraid of the change and can actually sabotage it. So, I'll try harder, longer, this time.
Thanks again,
Susan
poster:Susan J
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