Posted by LynneDa on November 17, 2003, at 13:23:10
In reply to hospitalization - how do you know when?, posted by Waterlily on November 16, 2003, at 19:24:34
Waterlily - One more thing. I just read my post and it sounds so negative about the effect on the family. It was negative only because they weren't open with us about what was happening. I saw my Mom as a wonderful woman who I admired, but I know sometimes she was not happy and I didn't know why - thought it was me or thought she was just not competent sometimes. I hate even writing that, it sounds like a betrayal. If she'd told me what was happening, it would have been different.
Not sure how much you tell your girls. I try to explain things to my 7 year old in terms she can understand so she doesn't think I'm mad or disinterested in her. I also stress that she's not responsible for taking care of me or trying to make me happy, that I just have to work hard and get through this and that some days will be better than others. I don't know if that's the right way to handle it or what I could be doing to her. I just know NOT knowing when I was growing up didn't seem right either!
I hope this helps. As Mom's we always feel guilty about something. But please, never feel guilty about getting help for yourself. Don't be afraid to take steps to protect yourself if you are at that point. If you actually question it, you must be kind of close. You deserve the best care you can get and it will help them in the long run too!!!
~ Lynne
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