Posted by Dinah on November 11, 2003, at 15:58:24
In reply to new here/issues with therapist, posted by thewriteone on November 11, 2003, at 11:22:05
Your post kind of reminds me of some of my earlier dustups with my therapist. I don't know if it will help you any, but I usually (ok, always) discovered that I misinterpreted his meaning. My fear of abandonment was so great that whenever he mentioned anything that even remotely sounded like termination, my flaming amygdala flamed and I couldn't hear anything else he said.
Could that be the case with you? She did say she didn't mean that she was asking to terminate.
Could you talk about it further? Talk it to death if you need to. One of my two main issues is fear of abandonment, and I'm afraid my therapist got thoroughly sick of the topic before I ceased to constantly fear he would terminate me. Can you ask her *exactly* why she asked? What was in her mind? And *exactly* how it made you feel, and the stream of consciousness it started? Can you ask her how she envisions the course of your therapy?
That being said, I think it's only fair of me to add that not all therapists are like mine. You might want to look through the archives of Psychological Babble (look at the top of this page. There's a link to Psychological Babble.) A lot of us have had these problems.
Good luck, and when in doubt, be honest with your therapist. :)
P.S. I terminated a few times and came back (and am extremely fortunate he took me back) and overall am glad I didn't follow through my impulse to abandon him before he abandoned me. I would have missed a lot of growth on my part.
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