Posted by judy1 on November 2, 2003, at 14:26:19
In reply to Re: sexual abuse survivors and anxiety over our k, posted by karen_kay on November 2, 2003, at 12:23:03
usually memories of past abuse don't come as accurate memories, more like flashes that can be triggered by smells or sounds, or in your case, actually having sex. just because you've repressed a great deal doesn't mean it didn't happen- most of us had to repress memories just to survive (especially when it involves a parent). i worry that you are setting yourself up as a victim again, by 'allowing' your boyfriend to have sex with you (and not being an active and willing participant) you're reliving your past. since you don't feel comfortable discussing this with him, i sincerely hope you are able to discuss it with a therapist. until you are able to cope with your past, you won't be able to have a healthy sexual relationship in the present. i wish you all the best and please know you're not alone in this- judy
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