Posted by fallsfall on October 22, 2003, at 11:16:38
In reply to Re: Local Resources, posted by Alexs on October 21, 2003, at 17:50:57
I understand your frustration and your need to have the situation addressed. However, I might suggest a slightly different wording for this:
>>First of all I'm going to demand she allow me to go to her therapy sessions when they deal with her hoarding problem because I can't take her word that she is even talking about it. I think it will help a lot if some one in a position of authority tell's her she has a problem.
"demanding" is going to make her defensive. If they talk about hoarding they probably do a little here and a little there and talk about other things in between. May I suggest that you try something like "The number of animals and amount of stuff in this house is making me uncomfortable (i.e. it is YOUR problem that you want to address). Can we set up a special session with your therapist so that I can understand why you want all of this here, I am hoping that she understands you well enough to help me understand (i.e. you DON"T want her to feel that you are taking over her therapy or horning in on her therapist). She may also have some suggestions for us so that we can BOTH be more comfortable (i.e. there are probably things that BOTH of you should do differently)."
I don't know your wife, but if someone demanded to come into my sessions, I know that it would not be a pretty sight. I probably am more sensitive to this than most, but - better safe than sorry?
Good luck!
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