Posted by Zarah78 on October 17, 2003, at 21:03:57
In reply to interesting questions!, posted by Susan J on October 17, 2003, at 10:28:29
> Cool name, by the way. What does it mean, I didn't read all those posts where people explained their screen names....
Thanks. Doesn't really mean much. It's just a name I really like that's kinda linked to a mental image of someone I'd like to be. :)
> A person's lack of empathy for a depressed person they care about quite often comes back to that person's own emotional unhealthiness. In my mother's case, she feels like a failure because she has a depressed daughter and it's a social stigma for her. She wants me better because she cares about me, but also because my depression's not a good reflection on *her.*
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> Tough for me, but so sad for her.....((((SusanJ)))) Kindred spirits on that thought. My mother seems to expect perfection, it seems. It's hard enough to not live up to someone else's expectations, harder still when those expectations are those of your own mother.
> Even the so-called *healthy* people should get a dose of therapy here and there to better fine-tune their own emotional health....
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> S.YES!! Hear, Hear! I think it should be a mandatory part of a yearly physical (not that many people do that anymore), or maybe make corportate mandates that call for yearly psych evals, especially for those in high-stress occupations. Yeah, I know. It's just an idealistic dream.
But these days, if I don't have my pretty-rose-tinted dreams of the world as it "should" be, then what do I have to hope for or escape to? :) Sometimes fantasies/dreams are a good way to set goals to work towards (as long as they're realistic - I'm obviously never gonna go back in time and change that really dumb thing I said to that *really* cute sales rep that comes in twice a week!) Sometimes its good to dream about how things might have been just to help us choose a better option if a similar situation comes around again later.
Yeah. Rambling stuff again. How do I always get so far off topic from where I started my thoughts? LOL. Oh well. :)
Bottom line: Mom support = good; Mom non-support = bad in referrence to childrens' mental health. :) My dad sees a therapist once in a while and thinks I should try it. :P (Automatically, this means mom will veto that, I think. LOL!)
-Z
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