Posted by Susan J on October 7, 2003, at 12:29:33
In reply to ZenHussy, posted by galkeepinon on October 7, 2003, at 3:45:52
Gal,
You know, I had nothing to do with all this, so if everyone here discounts what I say, I totally understand.
But I wrote you a really long post on the admin board about seeking forgiveness and all that. I don't know if you read it or not. It's so long it'd bore everybody.
Anyway, I'm just looking at all this pain that's coming up and it's really sad. That's not something I saw coming, but probably because I'm clueless about the situation. Maybe my advice sucked and seeking forgiveness even if others don't forgive you isn't the wisest thing.
I know it's in *your* best interests to seek forgiveness, it really is, but if it's causing this much pain in others, I don't know if it's worth it. Can't better yourself at the expense of others and all that...
Dinah's post (somewhere on here) was a good thought -- take these posts to your therapist and see what s/he thinks. I *do* admire your strength in coming clean, I really do. That's a tough thing to do.
But maybe finding the self-healing you need *can't* be done here this way, since others are in so much pain and anger from your admission and reappearance. It's not fair to keep causing pain and anger, even if you *truly* don't want to and are trying to make things right.
Be strong for yourself and continue on your journey to self-improvement. But also be kind enough to stop any behavior, no matter how noble it seems to you, that's hurting others. That make any sense?
Wow. The whole situation is tough. I'm sure it was bad a few month ago but to see the repercussions it's having now just brings it home to me how hard we should all struggle to be as kind and as honest as possible.
Susan
poster:Susan J
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