Posted by Susan J on September 9, 2003, at 15:37:14
In reply to Not at all., posted by kara lynne on September 9, 2003, at 14:26:09
> I don't know all the circumstances, but if he is sincerely apologizing and wanting to do the work, it sure looks enticing, doesn't it? On the other hand I have found it to be true that people are constantly telling us who they are. It is up to us to see it and believe it. For the most part people remain who they are.
<<Very wise words. He's one who's actions often didn't match his words. He is apparently trying to chance his actions this time around.....wait and see....wait and see.....>
> Again, I don't know what happened. If he did something that 'bottom-lined' it for you, you may never be able to trust him again--as it is in my case with my ex-boyfriend.
>>It was bad, it was failing a friend. I don't know if it's a point of no return. I know it's a point of *never returning to what was* only possibly trying to make something better.> He did something so cruel that even if he did come back wanting to fix it I don't think it could ever be fixed.
>>I wish I could be that strong. :-) When someone hurts someone else, I can never forgive them. When they hurt me, I more easily forgive.....I don't know why. Perhaps I can't bear pain in others, but understand what levels of pain I can deal with. Question is, why deal with any??? I guess I don't know what is an acceptable amount of emotional pain, because even the best relationships have some.
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> Girl is smart to be cautious!
<<Thanks! I will be....S.
poster:Susan J
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