Posted by Tabitha on August 26, 2003, at 1:03:52
In reply to Home Again (long), posted by Temmie on August 25, 2003, at 20:48:30
Hi Temmie, well I can't relate to the newly empty nest-- my nest has always been empty except for the one bird-- me. I'm trying to make it nicer though by doing some home improvement and redecorating. On the dating front.. no activity for me right now. I hope that changes soon, but for now I'm not really making any effort.
For your situation-- wow, that guy really triggered something in you. Do you ever think it might be better to also set some limits on talking about him to his friends and family? It probably just keeps the obsession going. My therapist used to patiently counsel me through long-lasting obsessions with unavailable men, and one of her tricks was to have me spend a day where I didn't do any seeking behavior, and didn't obsess. It was kind of a relief, since the obsession itself was so tiring. I apologize if I already shared this-- it's the most useful trick I have. Maybe you could give yourself some little Paul vacations.
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