Posted by deirdrehbrt on August 14, 2003, at 17:22:12
In reply to Re: Ok, I'll reframe it., posted by Dinah on August 14, 2003, at 14:38:25
I think you are really wise. Trying to teach someone else a lesson by doing to them what they've done to you is rarely effective. If they were capable of understanding the point of the lesson, they probably wouldn't have exhibited the behavior in the first place. If he is able to communicate, without getting upset, then it may be better to discuss the behavior that is troubling at sometime when neither of you are upset.
Wouldn't it be nice though, if spouses were able to talk to each other without taking offense at what is an example of behavior? It seems that when discussing something, and you point something out, like misuse of a particular word, that they become offended and the entire point of the discussion is missed, and nothing is accomplished.
Dee.
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