Posted by KimberlyDi on August 14, 2003, at 12:18:22
In reply to Any Men (or women) Out There With Dating Advice??, posted by Susan J on August 12, 2003, at 15:54:52
The continuing saga of people-pleasers seeking other people-pleasers... OK, first of all, if you are like me, you're *picker* is broken. You are attracted to the wrong type. Or, like sharks smelling blood in the water, the wrong type is attracted to your vulnerability.Up your standards. Put your dating on hold. Make your own happiness a priority. Know what you want and don't accept anything else. Don't tolerate disrespect. Don't always give 2nd and 3rd chances. Date people with good qualities. Don't date based on looks. A fine looking man gets pretty ugly if he makes you miserable.
It usually boils down to the fact that men treat you that way, because you put up with it. Which is great, because you can change that.
It's all about you. :)
KDi in Texas> I, after having some pretty horrible dates recently, was wondering what it was about a particular woman that makes men really treat the woman with respect?
>
> Why is it some women always get flowers/gifts from men, and some women (like me) don't?
>
> I'm kind and compassionate. Does that mean men find me weak or invaluable somehow?
>
> I give gifts/do little things for my guy. Does that mean he feels he can take me for granted?
>
> I'm not bitchy like some of my friends who demand a man make a certain salary, etc. Does that mean men think I have low standards so they feel they can treat me any way they want?
>
> I know none of you know me, but maybe you know some typical female behavior that attracts men who don't respect them? Or even better, is there some type of behavior that makes a man really value a woman? I think, other than dealing with depression, this is the last place I really need to fix to feel whole and healthy.
>
> What do you think I'm doing wrong?
>
> Thanks!
>
>
poster:KimberlyDi
thread:250310
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20030808/msgs/250795.html