Posted by Dinah on August 12, 2003, at 19:53:46
In reply to Dating The Honor Detector (sort of a sub thread), posted by gabbix2 on August 12, 2003, at 19:39:47
Ten years?
Oh... *Start* letting your guard down.
Seriously, I have enormous trust issues. Hence the thirteen years of dating before our eleven years of marriage. And I knew him for a year and a half as a friend before we started dating. And he *still* ended up with a few unpleasant surprises for me when we married.
How about letting your guard down slowly? Give a little bit of trust, see how it is handled, give a bit more, see how that is handled. Etc. Etc. Now this comes more from my therapy relationship than my dating one. I was too young to clarify these things back then. But I'll bet (knowing me) that I did a fair amount of testing. :( I'm a brat sometimes.
Of course, what do I know about men nowadays. Back in the good old days (early eighties) a slow courtship was still acceptable.
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