Posted by temmie on August 9, 2003, at 11:36:42
Last night at a family gathering, my dad gave two of my siblings and me $5000 to set up in a special fund for our college-bound kids.
Katie, who has two older children who happened not to go to college ... got nothing. Bill and Jane (comfortably married, no children) also got nothing.
Bill is okay. Jane is upset. Katie is worse. This is the source of great problems in the family. What can I do? I mentioned to my dad last night that Katie felt "left out," and he said he'd given her daughter money when she'd left home. Ack. Her son has ... done little ... to "better himself," from my dad's POV. He works in a fast-food restaurant, and has had little ambition beyond this ....
After moving out-of-state to be with a BF, which ended up not working out, My niece promptly returned and bought a new Saturn. I guess my dad felt the money he gave her was neither needed, nor appreciated -- but that's beside the point.
I wonder -- for those who've followed some of the discussion re. my dad's manic episodes and general episodes of perhaps not thinking clearly -- I wonder what I can do ... being on the receiving end ....
Ack! Maybe there's nothing to do, but let go ... detach ... thank God ... and keep moving forward. Thanks, Temmie
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