Posted by lostsailor on July 15, 2003, at 20:30:18
In reply to Re: Therapist/ Friend update--noa, posted by kara lynne on July 15, 2003, at 18:51:01
Kara,
Gee this is getting like a really intriguing novel. I mentioned in a post to (gabbix, I believe) that you and Noa have such beautiful flowing “prose” even when written under the harshest circumstances.
Frankly, although this may be out of my bounds, you seem way too good for your ex. PLEASE don’t blow up on me for that because I know that you really love him but, in all honesty to your-self (meaning you need not respond), are you not self mutilating Kara for now other reason than you are used to feeling stepped on. You write of your parents, “him” and your friends that seem about as trustworthy as most of mine are—or they really are and we just don’t have enough faith enough in them.
As for your therapist, are you familiar with the concepts of “transference” and counter transference??? Freud postulated on them originally in therapeutic relationships but obviously also ‘bleed” into all relationships that are somewhat long-term and trusting. If you aren’t, just run a quick net search on them…it is “normal” but your therapist should at least be aware of the concept and I am sure she is, but may not recognize it happening…
So much for my help…lol
~tony
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