Posted by fallsfall on July 7, 2003, at 12:58:09
In reply to Re: Therapist Question, posted by mair on July 7, 2003, at 12:26:44
I think that you need to have a very clear discussion with your therapist. Tell him exactly what he did that you didn't like. Tell him how it affected you. Tell him that it made you consider leaving. Tell him what you want him to do around that subject. Then ask what he was trying to accomplish. Ask if it was necessary. Ask if you request that he not do that anymore, can he honor your request.
Sometimes it can be hard to be so open and honest. But, as the survivor of a patient-therapist war, I encourage you to talk about it soon and very openly.
What I am recommending is to tell him what he did, tell him how it made you feel, give him a chance to explain himself, and then tell him what you want him to do in the future (since you are paying him).
I agree that you should try to work this out and not stop (or reduce sessions) due to one session.
You said that he knew he was pushing you, but you don't say that you asked him to stop.
Bring it up and have a discussion about it.
Good luck!!!
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