Posted by Tabitha on July 1, 2003, at 13:14:17
There must be some website full of stuff like this.. but I'd rather put it here. You know, I wanted it to end, but does it have to be like this? I suppose I couldn't get what I wanted DURING the relationship, why should I think I could get what I wanted from the ending. It would be nice though.
One consolation: At least if he's going to walk away from the sight of me, I don't have to quit going to my favorite starbucks. It's all MY TURF now.
Before she left for vacation, my therapist reminded me it doesn't mean anything about me if a guy I date uses an immature psychological style of having to erase people or tear them down to nothing when the romance ends.
After a breakup, I find it helps to identify the things I liked most about him, and try to develop those qualities in myself. He had this lovely corkscrew curly hair. Mine is wavy with the occasional corkscrew on a humid day. Yesterday I bought a book on hair care to maximize curls. Shallow? WHo cares. It's a 3 week hair care program. In 3 weeks I'll probably be nearly thru the grief process. I'm off to the store to buy the recommended clear styling gel.
Subj: Hello
If I talk to you on the phone or in person it will be
like taking a drink of whiskey for me. it will set up
the craving. I cannot contact you anymore. I will
react like an alcoholic taking a drink if I do. You
are not a bad person. Nor am I. we don't work and we
both no it. I will not read your email if you send
one. I will not answer the phone. I will not listen
to any phone messages. I will walk away from you If I
see you. I hope some day to think of you with loving
thoughts in my heart and not feel a needy craving and
obsession to use you as a drink. I am sorry for all
the pain I caused you. If I stay it will just cause
more. I wish you the best life. I in all sincerity
do. Hopefully some day I will not reduce you to
whiskey and I will be able to see you for who you are.
Maybe on that day we can be friends. I have no idea
when that day will come. take care and enjoy your
life
poster:Tabitha
thread:238466
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