Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2003, at 1:44:33
In reply to Breakup pain, ow., posted by Tabitha on June 23, 2003, at 1:25:12
Your therapist is right, it is normal. But that doesn't make it hurt less. My poor Tabitha. I wish I could send some balm to make it better.
But "pathetic loser woman"? If you are feeling that way about yourself you need to reexamine the facts. I remember when you were agonizing about talking to men, and how to get a date, and speed dating? was it? And when you decided to act, the first man you connected with found you desirable, and you formed a connection with him that lasted beyond a few dates. I gotta tell you, Tabitha, that that is not the profile of a pathetic loser woman. That is the profile of an attractive woman with a lot of dating potential.
This one didn't work out, and that hurts. But you got to experience the giddy feelings of infatuation that I haven't felt in a donkeys age (not that marriage doesn't have its own lovely feelings). You tested the waters and found that you could swim just fine. This wasn't the right guy for you mainly because you are at a different point in your development than he is. That's sad but it doesn't reflect badly at all on you.
And if you feel like slugging me right now, I don't blame you. I stormed out of my therapist's office on Friday for just such cheerful statements.
So I'll add that it's perfectly okay and normal and painful and really rotten to be feeling the way you are. I hope you feel better soon.
(((Tabitha)))
poster:Dinah
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