Posted by Dinah on June 2, 2003, at 8:22:57
In reply to Love life woes., posted by Tabitha on June 2, 2003, at 1:23:28
I'm sorry, Tabitha. :( I guess that's what dating is for. To test these things out. That's been a problem almost since the start of this relationship, hasn't it (with the art, I'm remembering). He wants to push a bit harder than you're comfortable with.
I congratulate you wholeheartedly on being able to set boundaries that you're comfortable with. All those years of therapy are showing. All you can do is what you think is healthy for you. What he does is what he does, his stuff, and really has little or nothing to do with you. You've gotten past doing the dance that was programmed into you by your fears and your childhood experiences, it sounds like. Perhaps he hasn't.
If he can manage to work through his own insecurities, Great!! If not, you dipped back into the dating pool, had a good time, probably developed some confidence, and learned that you now relate differently to men than you used to. Plus you got a couple of months of those heady feelings of infatuation. :)
And had those rotten feelings of pain and hurt too. :( I'm sorry for that part, Tabitha.
(((Tabitha)))
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