Posted by fallsfall on May 25, 2003, at 23:38:55
In reply to I hate this..., posted by lostsailor on May 25, 2003, at 22:43:23
I find that I can't go to my friends sometimes. I'm afraid they are too busy, or that I might upset them too much. But I know that they care.
The last time I felt that way was the time that I found Psychological-Babble. I posted something there, got some responses and went on to talking in a support group (groups are easier for me because if someone doesn't want to respond they don't feel pressured to). The group included some of the friends that I couldn't go to. They basically yelled at me for not going to see them, and they were really sweet.
So in my case, my friends really are there for me, it was I who was not willing (or able) to reach out. Once I could talk to them everything was better. Sharing a problem makes it so much lighter.
Can you choose one? One to talk to? You may need to explain a lot, but probably less than you think. They won't mind because they want to know what is going on with you. Even send an email - sometimes typing is easier than speaking, and not seeing a reaction is really helpful. They won't be mad that you stayed away - they will be glad that you called. I'm sure that will be true.
Being alone is too ... lonely.
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