Posted by bluedog on February 15, 2003, at 23:41:11
In reply to Re: whywhywhywhywhywhywhywhywhywhywhywhy!!!!, posted by bozeman on February 14, 2003, at 23:49:59
Thank you again everyone.
You know there is not even one single post from any of you guys in this thread that doesn't apply to my situation. It's ALL true. I definitely agree that my parents believe that their "baby" son suffering from a mental illness is a failing on their part in their raising of me!!
Beardy, I like your suggestion of allowing my parents to speak to my Pdoc but I saw the movie Donnie Darko last night and I must admit the scene where Donnie's parents met with his Psychiatrist really stuck in my mind and now I'm not so sure if I really want my parents to meet my Pdoc. They might end up worrying more than they already do.
Has anyone else seen this movie????? They never mentioned what meds Donnie was on but I'm willing to bet it was something a little stronger than a "mere" ssri or a benzo.
I'm probably just being paranoid but I can just see my Pdoc and my parents becoming an ominous force that will gang up on me and pressure me to increase my meds. My Pdoc has wanted to increase my AD dose for a while and I don't think I can handle my parents joining in with any added pressure. I think my Pdoc only agreed to DECREASE my AD dose because I think he was scared I was going to stop all my meds cold turkey.
All your posts have collectively been an enormous help and I agree now that at 33 years of age I really need to pull back and change the topic whenever the subject of mental illness comes up. As Tina said the topic of mental illness should simply be out of bounds. Believe it or not I've actually told them this on many occasions but they also refuse to accept this and their response is that "I don't understand what it is to be a parent" ( CATCH-22 really...I can't disagree with this statement because I don't know what it is to be a parent.....at least not to human babies.....I do have my doggy babies and they always agree with everything I tell them and then come up to give me a great big cuddle and (in Dreamers words) an enormous big KISSY.
And Jyl...thank you very much for your warning but I must add that alcohol is an incredibly potent argument accelerant in my family...especially if "I'M" drunk. I actually gave up alcohol cold turkey last June 2002 and the little experiments I've had dabbling with a couple of small drinks have proven to me that alcohol has an extremely powerful depressant effect on me even though I feel like all the worries of the world are gone when I am under the influence. Whenever I feel really bad I think about the "good" old days were I would empty a bottle of scotch in one night but I have been strong so far and not had any major slips. When I did drink I did so very deliberately and at purely social levels as an experiment just to see what would happen....it wasn't good so I'm now a tea-totaller again. (JASMINE TEA DREAMER)
I think I will suggest to my parents to go and watch Donnie Darko and they will then see that with my "MERE" social anxiety and major depression that they really don't have all that much to worry about and maybe they'll leave me alone to worry about my illness all on my own and in peace.
The weird thing is we are actually a really close family and love eachother enormously....it's just this one "little" sticking point of my mental illness that seems to create all the problems in our relationship.
NOW...Dreamer...how long have you been on the shelf...I can't believe this:) :). I've been on the shelf for years now and I'd actually ask you out for a milk shake myself after I've inspected your new pussy flap but I already have a date arranged with Bookgurl :) :).
warm regards everyone
bluedog
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