Posted by beardedlady on February 9, 2003, at 6:37:30
In reply to Re: Hi!, posted by paxvox on February 8, 2003, at 20:49:52
Well, I agree that you have to do the confrontation thing. You know what I do? When hubby and I need to talk to/shout at each other, I take my daughter for an overnighter at my folks' house or to play with a neighbor's kid.
Don't plan the date with your wife because she probably won't show up if she knows in advance. But find out your daughter's plans, and when she won't be home, then's the time to do the confrontation.
Do you ever think about the D word? You sound so terribly sad and undeserving of coming home to silence every day.
My husband has who friend who was going through a similar thing. They have on kid out of the house, a teenager, and a daughter your daughter's age. It took him years, but he finally moved out.
And then he moved in with my best friend!
He is much happier now, and the kids are happier, too. Unfortunately, they are with the mother. It won't be long before he has custody of them. They both have their share of problems, but this woman is in a bad way. Like your wife, she refuses counseling (actually, the one time she went, her therapists took her husband's side after seeing her behavior with him and hearing his story).
Sometimes it's not even a question of your own happiness but of others' misery.
Good luck, Pax. I hope you can at least have that "talk."
beardy
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