Posted by Tabitha on February 15, 2003, at 2:09:27
In reply to Re: When do you start feeling like a grown up? » jodie, posted by Dinah on February 15, 2003, at 1:48:06
Dinah, I'm glad to see you.
My mom seemed to just lose interest in her children after we got past toddler stage. I don't even remember her showing interest, but once she told me she really loved taking care of us as babies, so I think there must have been interest then. One of my many therapists told me something about why some parents just can't relate to children after age 2, I forget what it was but it made sense at the time. I'm glad she at least took good care of us when we were infants, or we'd probably be even less functional adults than we are ('we' being me and my brother)
Am I rambling? Oh, another thing that came to mind... I never felt much affection for my mom after about age 9. Then in college I had a case of mono and spent over a week lying in bed, too weak to even sit up and read or watch TV. Just staring at the ceiling. After 8 or 9 days I started to hallucinate cartoons, then I had this severe "I want my mommy" feeling. Really pure emotion, longing for my specific mother. It went on for a day or two. Until then I didn't even remember what it felt like to want my mother. Then I read in Scientific American that sensory deprivation experiments cause people to have visual hallucinations, plus emotional regression.
What all this is worth, I don't know.
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