Posted by Dinah on February 4, 2003, at 6:08:58
In reply to Re: Fickle therapists , posted by bpdzone2000 on February 3, 2003, at 22:42:21
> I have a great fear that my therapist will leave me. I posted last week on abandonment and I took your advice and talked with my therapist about some of my fears with her. It was something that bothered me for a long time, and that it was not unsusual to have these feelings. But I was amazed to find that it was o.k. and I was not alone.
That's great! I'm not surprised of course. But it's great that you got up the courage to talk about it with her. And now you've started talking about the tough stuff, it won't be so hard the next time. Congratulations on crossing a trust/intimacy hurdle!
> I feel very lucky to have a wonderful therapist but I can't stop the feelings of what she might think of me?
Well, I suppose that's natural. But as you keep telling her things, and she keeps communicating that she accepts you, those feelings do get less.
> I've made a committment to my therapist... Now isn't that scarey!!! I'll do it for her before myself...
> thanks for your posts everyone!Not scary or unusual at all (ok, maybe a bit scary, but not unusual). That's what positive transferences are for. :) My therapist always says that he'd rather I not self injure for myself, but if I do it for him, that'll be enough until I can do it for myself.
Thanks for the followup.
poster:Dinah
thread:35870
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