Posted by Miller on December 22, 2002, at 10:35:49
In reply to Re: dear Phil, posted by Tabitha on December 20, 2002, at 0:48:15
Phil,
Since I have been in very deep despair the last couple of months, I read your post as if it was directed to me. I think you are wrong. When a person tries to help by posting and giving advise and concern, it IS true that we may try to push the person away. However, at least in my case, I am more looking for the enlightened person to realise by pushing away, I want more. I want more attention or more advise or more concern. I want to keep the dialog going.
If you replied to a suicide post saying "I think you are making a mistake. Don't do it." and my reply was "Ok" what would be left of the support? You would say, in your mind, she is ok now. By pushing and stryggling, we are trying to keep the communication open.
You may be right about people not posting if they were truly going to take the plunge into death. But, we don't know if we don't answer the posts about suicide that they would decide to finish their goal tomorrow or Tuesday.
So, although you may feel rejected or unable to help, I think you are wrong. People so far down that this board is their only friend at a point and time, don't know how to express their thankfulness or their true intent.
Please don't give up on the desperate. I have a feeling I may need you very badly one day.
poster:Miller
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