Posted by bookgurl99 on December 17, 2002, at 22:39:08
I've lived in this city for 4 years. In this time, I've made a lot of acquaintances, but I haven't managed to make one real solid friend. This is hard for me to deal with, as in my college town -- before this -- I had a number of solid 'real' friends (you know, the kind you could call in the middle of the night if you had to.).
I've heard that other people have had trouble making close friends here. People will complain that they lived here for a year and didn't make one friend. One girl moved to Chicago, and said it's easier there -- in one of America's largest cities -- than it is here.
Yet, I feel so lonely, I feel like there must be something really wrong with me. I don't think I've changed a lot from the past, yet I've somehow lost my magnetism. I've asked people close to me to be blatantly honest, and the only thing they said is that there's nothing wrong with me; it's the people here. But how can the culture of a whole city function like this?
How do people deal with this? I'm looking into moving back to my smaller area -- which was more conservative and less gay-friendly, but in which I paradoxically fit in more and had more friends.
Has anyone experienced 'dry spells' like this?
*sigh*
bookgurl99
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