Posted by coral on December 11, 2002, at 16:55:36
In reply to Re: How come coping mechanisms are never healthy? » WorryGirl, posted by Eddie Sylvano on December 11, 2002, at 16:28:50
What a fascinating question! My guess is that it has to do with the traumas occurring when our brains/emotional make-up is still forming. You're right that so many coping mechanisms are destructive. Maybe it's the best our immature minds can conjure --- I was sexually assaulted when I was four. As an adult, dealing with the issue in therapy, I FIRST recalled two attackers - the neighbor I knew and a stranger. In a VERY safe environment with my therapist, I realized there was only one attacker. According to my therapist, my subconscious mind created the second attacker because I couldn't comprehend that someone I'd trusted so implicitly had been so violent.
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