Posted by Eddie Sylvano on December 11, 2002, at 9:56:05
In reply to Re: On anger... » Eddie Sylvano, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2002, at 16:45:27
>But I don't think suppression of feelings is all that selective. In trying to suppress the anger, we also make it difficult for ourselves to access the more desirable feelings.
--------------------I've read that you feel you're able to use this kind of emotional divorce/dissociation in a purposeful way, which is something I can't do. My emotions are usually either absent, or strong and mixed, for no real reason. I have seemingly no control over how I'll be feeling at a given time. My reticence to anger feels more pathological than volitional. I don't usually need to stifle anger, I simply don't have it (or relevant sadness, or happiness, or passion). The only time I get these feelings are in random, jumbled regurgitations (and dreams). Fortunately, modern life doesn't often call for visible displays of emotion.
Are all of your emotions affected by your emotional divorce? Does your husband complain about it? You're one of the few other people I can relate to on this issue. It's odd to read people's accounts on this board (versus talking to them in real life). Despite the problems and limitations you've described in yourself, you always come across as being very empahtic, intelligent, and well adjusted.
poster:Eddie Sylvano
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