Posted by shar on November 30, 2002, at 11:34:05
In reply to Re: pity party, posted by Dinah on November 27, 2002, at 15:27:42
I think an important phrase in my original post is:
"if used seriously..."So, I'm talking about when people are truly feeling sad, overwhelmed, depressed, or even suicidal, and someone recommends they get off the pity pot, or stop their pity party. IMHO, that is quintessential insensitivity.
I've seen and heard it used *seriously* WAY too many times, and have never once seen a helpful outcome from it. IMHO, and it is only my opinion, people who do use it against (yes, I believe it is used 'against' when it is used seriously) others are being insensitive and shaming at best and judgmental and critical or even cruel, at worst.
This is just my opinion. I see it as a damaging thing to say, when used seriously, with no redeeming value. So, I believe its use should be banned. And carry criminal penalties. (Yes, I am somewhat tongue-in-cheek about the latter, I suppose.)
Beardy, if you're reading, good people can say crappy things. I think my opinion about 'pity party' (when it's used seriously) makes it clear I think it is a crappy thing to say to someone, crappy on many levels and in many ways I didn't detail here. It does *not* mean, however, that I think people who say that seriously are crappy people.
Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving!
Shar
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