Posted by IsoM on October 9, 2002, at 2:09:12
In reply to Re: So freakin lonely...., posted by lawrence s. on October 8, 2002, at 21:20:37
I read a bit of your earlier posts but didn't have much time to stay at the comp so never followed it through. I recall your wife is alcoholic, doesn't care about changing, & your life & that of your children are in a major rut. I also know that Phil (I think) suggested Al-Anon.
I'd seek out some association there with others who know what you're going through, & while I don't advocate breaking up marriages, I do know that if someone stays in a dead-end marriage for "the kids" or because it takes too much effort to get out of it bacause one's so down, it'll only get worse & worse before it all blows up (or rots into nothingness).
If you're certain she's not going to change her actions, then you need to change yours. Find a lawyer (or free legal and/or family aid) to protect yourself & your children, & get out while you still have a spark of life in you. Get out before your children are destroyed. Get out before there's nothing left in your life. And perhaps, such drastic action may be what she finally needs to wake up & face the results.
Speaking as one who should've gotten out years earlier, but still managed to save myself & my sons with some dignity & self-esteem intact.
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