Posted by Phil on September 24, 2002, at 18:29:50
In reply to Why don't I like my sister anymore?, posted by sjb on September 24, 2002, at 14:38:18
As we chatted about in Al-Anon, especially as Christmas approached, most of us were going to be with our family of choice, not our family of origin.
If y'all are both strong minded about your political views, I wouldn't see her much. Unless you could put it aside.
One thing I couldn't put aside is telling her what her husband did. You suffer with this rape and she's none the wiser. You aren't doing her a favor and depending on how she responds, you two could be very close again. If she gets hurt or pissed at you, then you have a choice to make.
I would pick a Hallmark setting with the two of you and I would say, "You know when you asked me...well, here's the deal." You are only as sick as your secrets, some would say.
Thank God I'm not a judge in child abuse cases, incest, and raping little sisters. He'd be out of jail in 10-15 mandatory. My guess is he's still acting out while married to your sister. Tell her to hire a PI.
I think the molestation is keeping y'all apart alot more than politics. If she's that naive, you still need to let her know because her jerk husband certainly isn't.
I love my two brothers but when one moved to town several years ago, it was twilight zone time. I love them more than I can say. Do I want them next door, nope.
I'm kinda spaced out from allergies today so I hope something I said makes sense.
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