Posted by Medusa on August 30, 2002, at 3:04:21
In reply to Re: it's okay - allowed - to feel lonely, posted by Kath on August 29, 2002, at 16:54:08
> Do you think that you still believe what they told you?
Kath,
I don't believe the part about being friends with my mother, I don't think. She thinks there's some mystical connection between us since I'm the firstborn, and she complains to people how much I've hurt & rejected her. Like my undying, blind devotion is her g-d-given right. A while ago, a couple of my little sibs were talking about our mother's "friends", and said all they talk about is losing weight and a couple of other topics I can't remember. My sister (she was 10 at the time) said that none of the women can lose weight, because if they did they wouldn't have anything more to talk about, and then they wouldn't be friends!
About the not needing friends, I don't know. I'm really unsure about what friendship means. I tend to cut negative, or over-needy, or unreliable people out really fast, so I don't have many people to just meet for coffee or sandal shopping or whatever ... and I agree with my parents that I don't need *that* kind of friends. Their view seemed to be more that it was materialist, worldly, unspiritual, family-disloyal etc to have friends and enjoy their company. They picked to pieces every person I got along with, and yet tore into me for not making easy conversation with people and for being a bit shy. Sorry to ramble, I'm confused about this! guess I got a lot of mixed messages.
Thanks for asking. The short answer is -I'm not sure what parts of my parents' messages I still believe.
M
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