Posted by Medusa on August 29, 2002, at 4:53:45
In reply to Re: my life as a f**k up :-) - dating as a way to fail » Medusa, posted by jay on August 29, 2002, at 4:04:15
> Well, after living with it so often in the past...I gotta find some humour in it. I went through some very dark times in relationships.
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>Sorry, I didn't mean to cut down your humor.
> we had lost our child together. That's when it went *down down down*. I read that couples who lose a child don't stay together...and this was pure evidence.
>I'm sorry you went through that. Losing a child, and not being able to get a child, seems to drive a lot of couples apart.
> sooner. Well...are there written rules I am
>supposed to follow? Phhtt..Have you read _The Rules_? it's a bunch of crap, but a lot of women have read it and follow it blindly. If you can get a copy in the library (don't waste your money!) it might give you some insight into very real mentality of a lot of women out there. It seems like a caricature, but there are really really women who live this out. If you get wise to it, you can ask them straight out what they think of the approach. Of course, one of the Rules is to Never Talk About The Rules. Geese.
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> I am not looking for the "cute cheerleader types"..ugghhh..I want a w.o.m.a.n. with brains and a heart, not a "Colgate smile"!..ughh.
>So I guess I won't set you up with my sister ... oh I forgot she's already married.
> I will think and maybe try your approach..Lemme know what happens. I also know a guy who has met women by 1) reading women's magazines on the train. Two women, at different times, asked him why he was reading that, and he said he was trying to understand women, and they said the mags were full of baloney and he should better get to know women. One he dated, the other was more of a buddy but he learned a bit. THEN he 2) tried telling women reading women's mags that the mags were full of baloney, and they shouldn't do these things to please men. His results with this were not so great.
Hang in there.
M
p.s. are you in any special interest /hobby groups? this is a low-pressure way to meet people, not directly so much as people who set you up with people they know.
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