Posted by Kath on August 28, 2002, at 11:55:50
In reply to Re: Oh Tina.... --, posted by mair on August 27, 2002, at 17:17:34
Hi Tina - would you please post today? I hope so. I hesitate to say anything 'nice' about you! I'm really pissed off because I wrote quite a long post to you/Ted in another thread - I think the one above this. Maybe it'll show up sometime?!
It was basically about when shitty things happen to us as kids it screws us up. You & I (& countless others, no doubt) have had things happen in our childhoods that made us feel awful. We came to believe that we ARE awful. We believe it like heck! Obviously, when people say that we're nice, great, whatEVER - it isn't surprising that we could feel lonely, desparate, misunderstood, furious, crazy.....
I think we have 'core' beliefs that we hang onto like anything.
Would you believe that when Elissa told me "you're a good Mom" or 'you're a great Mom" - I felt awful & really uncomfortable?!!!!! I think I screwed up my kids royally. PART of my intellect realizes that I might have done SOME stuff okay, but mostly I FEEL that I've been a shitty Mom.
I'm sorry nice stuff makes you feel awful. When I say nice stuff about you, it's my true experience of you. I'm not just trying to make you feel better Tina.
Please check in, okay? A lotta people would love to hear from you even if it's just HI.
love, Kath
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