Posted by ~~tabitha~~ on August 27, 2002, at 14:09:38
In reply to Re: Don't worry Tabitha. » ~~tabitha~~, posted by Dinah on August 27, 2002, at 6:02:46
I don't have much of a fantasy life either. Mine are too reality-based. I sometimes try to pry them off a real-life unattainable object and put them onto a truly unattainable object like a celebrity where they're more harmless. I've been blissfully free of fantasy for a couple years. That's happiness for me. I hate painful longing. I can spend hours obsessing and suffering. I really had to force myself to break that habit. It's all really father issues with me anyway, Daddy didn't want me, blah blah blah, so I find a new unattainable male and try to fix the past with him, and fail, and re-live all that childhood pain. Ugh. Round and round.
Well my therapist is back from vacation, thank god for that. She reminded me of reality in this situation. The unpleasant thing is here I was getting hung up on a 27-yr old, meanwhile the other man in my life is 72. Could it get any more inappropriate? That middle ground eludes me. Where are the 40-something guys? I really need a real social life, do I ever.
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