Posted by jay on July 27, 2002, at 0:51:06
In reply to Victimization, posted by EmilyAnn on July 26, 2002, at 13:47:16
Hi:I think that it is very, very judgemental of a therapist to come to a blatent conclusion you are "using depression to get something." You should snap back.."Have you walked a mile in MY shoes?". That sounds rather arrogant and ignorant of them. If you aren't comfortable with them, you have every right to search for another one. There are many bad therapists out there. Don't take what one says as 'gospel'.
Best wishes...
Jay
> hi all. thank you to those who replied to my post about my hospitalization. I need as much support as I can get right now.
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> I am really struggling with blame and responsibility and victimization now. In my PHP today, the therapist said that I may be using depression to get something. I really don't think I am...the only thing I can think of is to use it as an excuse to isolate. Everything else does not apply to me...I want to be able to do things, I don't want people to pity me, I don't like attention, I get embarrased about being sick...so I don't know. They tell me I need to learn coping skills, and I get that...I really do...but how can I when this depression is like a cloud over me that I can not (not will not...CAN NOT) get from underneath...First I have them telling me that it's not my fault and that I have an illness, then that I need to get myself out of it after they tell me that you can't just snap out of depression...I'm just confused and frustrated now. I don't want to act like a victime and I know a lot of my problems are self-inflicted...but most are as a result of how I handled my depression, which is my reponsibility...I am just annoyed that I feel I am being blamed for my illness. Please help.
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> Thank you.
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