Posted by sid on May 14, 2002, at 9:08:17
In reply to Re: Highly Sensitive People » sid, posted by Ritch on May 13, 2002, at 23:11:10
Hi Mitch,
actually, speaking in front of a gorup is not the same as speaking among a group. Then there is much more interaction and it's a lot more personal. When you give a speech or teach, you have a specific topic and people try to get to know that topic, not you. I can talk about personal things and be entertaining with one or two people, but in a group, I kind of disappear. When I teach, it's a role I'm playing. I'm prepared - I talk about the day's topic, answer questions, give homeworks, there's nothing personal in it. Teaching, giving a speech, as well as acting, are rather impersonal, anonymous things to do. It's not you out there, it's the professional in you, the actor in you. Anyway, there's a huge difference for me. At parties I usually sit in one place, talk to a few people, no more than that. I'm rather ill at ease in such settings.Like IsoM however, I seem to get life stories of people (and their problems) out in no time at all - even when I really don't want to know about it. I remember one Xmas party at a boss' house, My God ! A friend of hers told me her life story in 5 minutes, with all the gory details, the unhappiness, etc... I was so angry to even have beem to that party. I found this person soooo clinging and unpleasant, I could not believe she had chosen me to dump this all on. Anyway, since then, I have learned to change seat or leave when that happens. I had my own problems (being depressive and contemplating suicide at the time), and I could not believe the unpleasant evening I had spent there. Still, I sat there rather than move around and talk to more people, because I was shy I guess.
Oh well. No wonder I don't enjoy parties.
- sid
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