Posted by SusanG on April 19, 2002, at 12:07:57
In reply to Significant Others, please help - sex depression, posted by Krazy Kat on April 19, 2002, at 9:54:36
First I just want to say, I often think of that scene in some Woody Allen movie where a split screen is shown with Woody talking to his therapist on one side and his S.O. talking to hers on the other. He says something like, "We hardly ever have sex; maybe three times a week!", and she says, "We are always having sex; maybe three times a week!" It always makes me smile and reminds me how our individual sex drives can vary so much and yet still be within the definition of "normal", if their is such a thing.
I think one thing that is key is your S.O.'s attitude here. If he is understanding of your situation and it isn't interfering with your relationship, great. But I'll bet that isn't exactly the case or you wouldn't have posted. I know that it is very difficult for me to feel sexually alive and interested when depressed. But I also know how incredibly significant our sexual relationship is to my husband and me. So, I try to make it a priority, even when my Inner Sex Godess has gone into hibernation. I find sometimes it helps my depression somewhat and keeps me linked to my spouse even when I don't feel much like communicating verbally. And it is a great sleep aid.
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